Comments on: but no one asks me to dance! http://www.thecubansalsablog.com/2009/10/no-one-asks-me-to-dance/ salsa, self-expression, and Cuban Salsa dance classes in North Carolina Thu, 29 Jul 2010 22:25:02 +0000 hourly 1 By: Tonia http://www.thecubansalsablog.com/2009/10/no-one-asks-me-to-dance/comment-page-1/#comment-562 Tonia Thu, 22 Oct 2009 16:15:06 +0000 http://www.thecubansalsablog.com/?p=1163#comment-562 Good points Eduardo. There is a lot of psychology that goes into the dancing. Early on I was really hurt when I wasn't being asked to dance or I was being turned down. I still am sometimes to be honest. I try my best to present well, improve, and have a positive attitude. Sometimes several songs without a dance partner can make me feel bad but I try to overcome it. I have also had to learn to ask people to dance which many women don't want to do and as a result don't get to dance much. With so few leads out there it's a little competitive and if you don't put yourself out there you get left holding up the wall. Additionally, several bad dances (whether I'm the one doing a bad job, the lead is bad or we are bad together) can really suck. I just have to realize that it doesn't mean I'm all bad, but maybe I'm just having an off night or the vibe isn't good for me. There are so many factors that influence the dance experience, from how you look and feel to the music, the mood of the other dancers, and your dance partners. At the end of every dance I make an effort (no matter what the experience or outcome of the dance was) to thank my partner for the dance. Every dance provides an opportunity to learn and grow as a dancer and I appreciate every dance partner I have. And still, more of you leads need to get out there to dance. The follows (mostly ladies) are fighting over the ones who are out there and you guys have some things to learn outside of the dance studio just like follows. Good points Eduardo. There is a lot of psychology that goes into the dancing. Early on I was really hurt when I wasn’t being asked to dance or I was being turned down. I still am sometimes to be honest. I try my best to present well, improve, and have a positive attitude. Sometimes several songs without a dance partner can make me feel bad but I try to overcome it. I have also had to learn to ask people to dance which many women don’t want to do and as a result don’t get to dance much. With so few leads out there it’s a little competitive and if you don’t put yourself out there you get left holding up the wall.

Additionally, several bad dances (whether I’m the one doing a bad job, the lead is bad or we are bad together) can really suck. I just have to realize that it doesn’t mean I’m all bad, but maybe I’m just having an off night or the vibe isn’t good for me. There are so many factors that influence the dance experience, from how you look and feel to the music, the mood of the other dancers, and your dance partners.

At the end of every dance I make an effort (no matter what the experience or outcome of the dance was) to thank my partner for the dance. Every dance provides an opportunity to learn and grow as a dancer and I appreciate every dance partner I have.

And still, more of you leads need to get out there to dance. The follows (mostly ladies) are fighting over the ones who are out there and you guys have some things to learn outside of the dance studio just like follows.

]]> By: Eduardo http://www.thecubansalsablog.com/2009/10/no-one-asks-me-to-dance/comment-page-1/#comment-560 Eduardo Wed, 21 Oct 2009 18:53:22 +0000 http://www.thecubansalsablog.com/?p=1163#comment-560 And just for the record, if you turn down someone for a dance, it should be for a really really good reason. All of the above take nothing away from the responsibility of each dancer to contribute good vibes to the social dance floor. I believe that you should give everyone a chance regardless of their ability. But again, if you are the one looking, never count on any one being 'gracious'. And just for the record, if you turn down someone for a dance, it should be for a really really good reason.

All of the above take nothing away from the responsibility of each dancer to contribute good vibes to the social dance floor.

I believe that you should give everyone a chance regardless of their ability.

But again, if you are the one looking, never count on any one being ‘gracious’.

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