Comments on: “tell me friend, just who are you dancing for?” http://www.thecubansalsablog.com/2009/08/tell-me-friend-just-who-are-you-dancing-for/ salsa, self-expression, and Cuban Salsa dance classes in North Carolina Thu, 29 Jul 2010 22:25:02 +0000 hourly 1 By: Eduardo http://www.thecubansalsablog.com/2009/08/tell-me-friend-just-who-are-you-dancing-for/comment-page-1/#comment-477 Eduardo Mon, 24 Aug 2009 15:28:03 +0000 http://www.thecubansalsablog.com/?p=958#comment-477 Reed, So you've worked with Graham's technique? Give us a nutshell of your experience with it! Also, the gentlemen you worked with in class the other day was absolutely THRILLED at the way you were able to gently dissect and built up his movements...! And since I taught you, I will take a piece of that credit -thank you very much!! haha!! Reed,

So you’ve worked with Graham’s technique?

Give us a nutshell of your experience with it!

Also, the gentlemen you worked with in class the other day was absolutely THRILLED at the way you were able to gently dissect and built up his movements…!

And since I taught you, I will take a piece of that credit -thank you very much!! haha!!

]]> By: Eduardo http://www.thecubansalsablog.com/2009/08/tell-me-friend-just-who-are-you-dancing-for/comment-page-1/#comment-476 Eduardo Mon, 24 Aug 2009 15:15:18 +0000 http://www.thecubansalsablog.com/?p=958#comment-476 Tonia, I am fairly sure that every single person on this earth has felt inadequate is some area of their life. Again, like you said, it's how you deal with it. You can use it as a motivator and allow that "dissatisfied satisfaction" push you to do big and better things. It's great that you highlighted the fact that the imperfection isn't the problem. Feeling inadequate isn't the problem. It's the fear of those feelings that locks us into paralysis and prevents good things from happening. Zen moment... Except the existence of every emotion and feeling and be okay with owning it. Don't try to run or escape from inadequacy, fear, anger etc..look it in the eyes and acknowledge its presence. I've learned that energy spent on debating whether or not a feeling should exist is energy wasted indeed. Now I look at it as, "hey, I feel xx emotion, and that's fine" what do I do with it, and how can I go forward. I think Graham's words were simply an extension of a universal truth: If you allow the current to bring you to shore, you will have infinitely more energy to walk upstream. Tonia, I am fairly sure that every single person on this earth has felt inadequate is some area of their life. Again, like you said, it’s how you deal with it. You can use it as a motivator and allow that “dissatisfied satisfaction” push you to do big and better things.

It’s great that you highlighted the fact that the imperfection isn’t the problem. Feeling inadequate isn’t the problem. It’s the fear of those feelings that locks us into paralysis and prevents good things from happening.

Zen moment…

Except the existence of every emotion and feeling and be okay with owning it. Don’t try to run or escape from inadequacy, fear, anger etc..look it in the eyes and acknowledge its presence.

I’ve learned that energy spent on debating whether or not a feeling should exist is energy wasted indeed.

Now I look at it as, “hey, I feel xx emotion, and that’s fine” what do I do with it, and how can I go forward.

I think Graham’s words were simply an extension of a universal truth: If you allow the current to bring you to shore, you will have infinitely more energy to walk upstream.

]]> By: Reed http://www.thecubansalsablog.com/2009/08/tell-me-friend-just-who-are-you-dancing-for/comment-page-1/#comment-475 Reed Sat, 22 Aug 2009 16:47:38 +0000 http://www.thecubansalsablog.com/?p=958#comment-475 Tonia - beautifully said! I often beleive it is the things that scare us the most, are the things we most need to do. Graham was such an inspirational woman and opened so many new avenues for dance. And what she created, remains one of the most challenging dance techniques I've ever experienced. Tonia – beautifully said! I often beleive it is the things that scare us the most, are the things we most need to do.

Graham was such an inspirational woman and opened so many new avenues for dance. And what she created, remains one of the most challenging dance techniques I’ve ever experienced.

]]> By: Tonia http://www.thecubansalsablog.com/2009/08/tell-me-friend-just-who-are-you-dancing-for/comment-page-1/#comment-473 Tonia Fri, 21 Aug 2009 22:17:06 +0000 http://www.thecubansalsablog.com/?p=958#comment-473 So beautifully said by Ms. Graham. It is what I strive for in many of the things that I do. It is difficult to not judge yourself, compare yourself against others or be concerned with how you appear to others. All of our lives it is drummed into our heads that we must look our best, we must behave appropriately, we shouldn't show too much emotion (especially men) and as a result it is a challenge to overcome our resistance to expression. I think that to be who your really are and to express who you are and what you feel however you choose is probably the most liberating thing you can do for yourself and others. A whole new world has opened up to me this year because I have allowed myself to dance, despite my fears of inadequacy. My fears of inadequacy exist in almost every aspect of my life. What I gain from Ms. Grahams statement is that it isn't inadequacy that is the problem, it's the fear. Fear can paralyze, where sense of inadequacy or imperfection can motivate us to keep going forward. What a great topic and quote. It is definitely good food for thought. Thanks for sharing it. So beautifully said by Ms. Graham. It is what I strive for in many of the things that I do. It is difficult to not judge yourself, compare yourself against others or be concerned with how you appear to others. All of our lives it is drummed into our heads that we must look our best, we must behave appropriately, we shouldn’t show too much emotion (especially men) and as a result it is a challenge to overcome our resistance to expression.

I think that to be who your really are and to express who you are and what you feel however you choose is probably the most liberating thing you can do for yourself and others. A whole new world has opened up to me this year because I have allowed myself to dance, despite my fears of inadequacy. My fears of inadequacy exist in almost every aspect of my life. What I gain from Ms. Grahams statement is that it isn’t inadequacy that is the problem, it’s the fear. Fear can paralyze, where sense of inadequacy or imperfection can motivate us to keep going forward.

What a great topic and quote. It is definitely good food for thought. Thanks for sharing it.

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